I find this adorable
Why can girls show of naked but guys can't. When they do they are disgusting pigs.
Here’s the difference: Women freely post their bodies on the internet as they please. People follow them, reblog their photos, comment on them, etc. We are literally bothering no one.MEN fucking instagram direct me their disgusting oozing penis with the words “you want daddy’s big fat cock baby?”
I have NO problem with men posting their bodies on the internet with their own free will, just like women doing. No one bothering anyone. That’s fine. Thats what women do.
Women DO NOT send their gaping wet vaginas to men WITHOUT CONSENT being all “ya u wanna fuck dis daddy yaaaaa” and hey, let me tell you, if you DO get a message like that from a women, it’s 100% a dude pretending to be a women. Women dont act like that.
You would never go up to a women IN PUBLIC, pull out your dick, and ask me to “suck daddy’s cock” would you? NO. Wanna know why? because that’s fucking sexual assault. So, where the fuck do men get off doing that over the internet? Because I post my body, with my own free will to do what ever I want on my own blog? No. NO WHERE does it say on my blog that I want to see anyone’s dick. And hey guess what? if I took that photo to the police, with your real name (most men are stupid enough to have their real names on 90% of their social media profiles) you would be charged with sexual harassment, and harassment in general.
CONSENT IS EVERYTHING.
Thats what men need to realize. There are boundaries. And its NOT RESPECTFUL to send someone your penis when you didnt ask for it. But sure, go ahead, post it on tumblr. Do whatever you like, THATS FINE!! But dont fucking shove it down women;s throats like we want that LOL. Hope that helps enlighten you.
How to learn a language
Tips from a language major:
•When learning new vocabulary write the meaning in your language once and the new word at least three times
•If you are learning a new writing style (I.e. Hanzi, kanji, Sanskrit, etc.) write the character at least three times, the meaning and the pronunciation once. -do not write the pronunciation above the character, write it to the side, otherwise you won’t even try to read it. -Learn! Stroke! Order!
•when reviewing vocab try to use the word in a sentence.
•do not pay attention to the technicalities of the grammar. Do not attempt to compare it to your own language. This will seriously mess you up for 80 years. Just pay attention to the sentence structure and make similar sentences.
•if you are learning a tonal language (I.e Chinese) or language that has sounds that don’t exist in your language watch videos of people pronouncing things and try to match their mouth movements.
•if all else fails on your tones just speak quickly.
•watch TV shows in that language and yes watch them with subtitles. But please be aware that may not be how people speak in real life (I’m looking at you, Japanese/Chinese/Korean learners)
•DO NOT BE AFRIAD TO MAKE MISTAKES of you mess up during a sentence just correct yourself and keep going.
•flash cards, flash cards, flash cards. Real and digital.
•spend at least an hour a day on it (OUTSIDE of class), if you’re trying to learn on your own you’re gonna need more time.
•talk to yourself in that language, take notes in it, set your phone to it. You probably look crazy but that is a-ok.
•listen to music in that language, while it probably won’t do much for your ability in the beginning it will help you distinguish sounds once you get pretty good.
•and lastly, don’t give up. It took you like ten years to grasp your own language it’s gonna take awhile to grasp another.
-How I learned 2 ½ languages at once.
Somebody asked me to make anybody singing “I will survive” to help them with their motivation during thesis month. Sooo I hope you enjoy this new brainfart of mine! Deviantart
rescue me
Intelligence is knowing that Galaxy Quest is not a Star Trek movie.
Wisdom is knowing that Galaxy Quest is the best Star Trek movie.
Azura Rose: On Disability & BDSM
[Azura gave a presentation at the Playground conference concerning disability and BDSM/kink/sexuality. I asked her to write a condensed version for my ongoing kink series. Enjoy! Writing is hers; photography by me– D.C.]
[TW: brief discussion of abuse, ableism, mental illness]
Hey! I’m here to talk about disability and BDSM. I’ve written this as a primer for abled folk :)
I have multiple disabilities, including Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, dysautonomia, gastroparesis, cPTSD, depression, and autism. I’m not the stereotypical image of disability, as I (usually) don’t use a wheelchair and most of my disabilities are completely invisible. Disability is incredibly diverse, and it’s important to remember that people have many different needs and abilities. The word used to describe oppression and discrimination towards disabled people is ableism. Ableism is unfortunately very prevalent, both in the BDSM community and in general society.
One of the major ableist road blocks to disabled people being equal members of the kink community is accessibility. Now, there are some basic, more obvious things, like making sure there are ramps, and automatic doors so that people with wheelchairs can access your events. There are also other physical accessibility things to consider, like making sure any areas are wide enough for wheelchairs and other mobility equipment, there’s a proper wheelchair accessible bathroom with grab bars, making sure tables and such are low to the ground, and any handrails are sturdy and stairwells are not too steep or narrow. Other aspects of accessibility that are often totally missed include good lighting for people with vision problems or who rely on sign language, low volume on music for people with sensory problems like autism, non-slip floors, and available seating for those of us with fatigue or issues standing for long periods of time. Specifically at workshops, think of ways to be accessible to people with learning disabilities, so that they can learn from you in ways that work best for them. Also be sure to make parties accessible for the mentally ill. A good way to do that is have a quiet safe space for decompression (which is also great for autistic people and general aftercare!), and provide trigger warnings for scheduled performances that touch on consensual non-consent, blood play, age play, or other common triggers. Honestly, it’s best to always err on the side of caution and let your audience know the themes of your performances. If possible, follow similar guidelines for your scenes in the dungeon (outside of edge play specific parties) and/or inform the DM of any play you suspect could be upsetting to watch. Also, DO NOT EVER use ableist slurs. Period. If anything is going to make disabled people feel unwelcome, that would be top of the list.
Let’s say disabled people can get into your spaces comfortably, like everyone else. Now we have to find someone to play with! Society really doesn’t portray disabled people well. We’re often reduced to “inspiration porn” or tools to uplift abled people. Abled people get Oscars for portraying us in the most problematic and reductive ways; we’re always the inspiration, the joke, or have superpowers that minimize our disabilities, and are never the love interest or seen as beautiful. It’s hard to gain the confidence to approach someone, and often the person you approach will make wild assumptions about you or may not think of you as a sexual/romantic/kinky being at all. It’s important to interrogate your ideas about who is and is not desirable as a partner.
One thing that may turn you off playing with a disabled person is your assumptions about what our bodies are capable of. While some people will be unable to do certain things, the key is adaptability. Even abled people will have different needs and abilities, and many people will be injured from kink play and have to change how they do things. You should already be thinking about safe gestures for loud clubs and gagged partners, so someone who uses sign language or who is non-verbal is actually not a big adjustment. I, myself, go non-verbal in subspace, and use sign language for various colours as safe gestures, which can be done one-handed, and while bound. You might also want a safe word or gesture for medical emergencies, so that things kick into gear faster than with a simple red or stop. Really, the key is to communicate, listen, and find what works for both partners! Experiment with your technique, for science!
The last topic I’d like to touch on today is that of consent and abuse. Specifically, I’d like to talk about abuse, sexual assault, and victim blaming. Disabled people are, statistically speaking, at pretty severe risk for abuse and sexual assault, often from our support people or partners. It is crucial to believe disabled people when they disclose abuse, especially those with intellectual, developmental, and mental disabilities. Do not gaslight disabled victims of abuse, ever. It’s also important to support disabled survivors. Whether our abuser was part of the community and needs to be dealt with, or is not and we just need understanding around any triggers or safe space we need, it is paramount that we do not further isolate people who are already vulnerable and often already pretty isolated.
I could write forever on ableism, and I probably will. Each paragraph here is just a small introduction to a vast topic with many voices. If you’re serious about anti-oppression, intersectional feminism, inclusivity, or just being a decent person, you’ll take each of these points as the starting point of further research and thought. If there’s any topics about disability I’ve touched on here (or not!) that you’d like me to go more in depth about, either message me or DoomCookie and I’ll see what I can do :)
Azura Rose ( @hellcatazurarose )
I said some things! I hope this is helpful :)
outtake from the set I shot of @avery-vulpes !
Clippy, the animated assistant in Word, is well known as one of the most hated software features ever released. Now we know why Microsoft released it – because the male engineers didn’t listen to female user feedback. “Even Early Focus Groups Hated Clippy. Women told Microsoft the animated paper clip was leering at them. The software company didn’t listen.”
OMFG CLIPPY WAS DESIGNED AS THE ORIGINAL MANSPLAINER THIS MAKES THIS MEME EVEN BETTER
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hoe tips n tricks
basically just a cute lil list of tips for self-care hope u enjoy ❤️
• for rly smooth skin, shave w/ coconut butter and apply coconut oil afterwards i promise ur skin will thank u
• neosporin is rly good for stretch marks
• to taste ;))) better, cranberry juice, apple juice, and yogurt works better than pineapples
• exfoliate!!! moisturize!!! love urself!!! wash ur face daily and moisturize ur body for 30 mins after a shower
• def recommend men’s shaving cream instead of female, it lathers better and it leaves ur skin feeling softer (also hair doesn’t grow back as fast)
• seriously drink ur water fam :/// better for ur skin, immune system, digestive system, metabolism, etc. if u want add some fresh fruit into it why not
•make ur own body/lip scrub! brown sugar + coconut oil, scrub on your legs n lips you’ll feel amazing, takes off all the dead skin and bacteria too
• if u have dark marks on your inner thighs, rub coconut oil on them
• carry vaginal cleansing cloths in ur bag/purse for when u need them
• pls go pee after sex/masturbation, it helps prevent UTI and cleans your coochie
• always wipe ur cooch from front to back to prevent yeast infections
• carry around a small bag of emergency items u may need whatever happens (ex: tampon/pad, spare undies, chapstick, etc.)
• to grow ur eyebrows and/or lashes, coconut oil and castor oil does wonders, apply with a clean mascara wand/spoolie
• bring condoms ur damn self
• psa there’s nothing wrong w/ masturbation it’s so good for you and helps to find out what u do/don’t like in bed
• a dab of tea tree oil on a pimple will work v good (so will toothpaste in pinch but it will dry it out so make sure u moisturize after)
• get massages, pamper yourself 💖
• invest in good shampoo + conditioner for your hair type
• heard kat von d liquid lipsticks are bj proof ;))
• matte makeup always works better if ur sweating and rolling in the sheets
• get some cute undies/bras/lingerie for yourself
• NEVER go to sleep with makeup on, remove it with makeup remover wipes and wash ur face pretty pls
• get ur eyebrows threaded/waxed it’s so worth it
• if u want to get ur coochie in tip top shape I would recommend a bikini wax done by a professional it’s not that much $$$ and they actually know what they’re doing I promise
• to grow out ur nails, rub garlic on your nails and coconut oil on your cuticles for stronger, longer natural nails
• washing ur vulva and pubic hair with vaginal cleaning soap is v good for you and removes dead skin, bacteria, and odor
• face masks work wonders, also blackhead removal strips are great too
• take care of ur body, it needs u just as much as u need it
!!! please use coconut oil sparingly I’m telling you too much will clog your pores and cause acne and we do not want that so use a little at a time less is more
Throwback to my third set for SuicideGirls, The Cake Is Not A Lie. Shot by @doomcookiephoto http://suicidegirls.com/members/azurarose/album/2135539/the-cake-is-not-a-lie/
Had an amazing rope bondage photo shoot today, so I’m posting a throwback to my performance at MBE2015 :)
Oh my fuck, yes! This was a super hot scene and a super hot photo. I'm clearly enjoying myself.
PETA Is A Joke
I’m sorry, but this is so fucking stupid. PETA is claiming that this is what a sheep looks like after it has been sheared. In case you were wondering, this is what a sheep ACTUALLY looks like after it has been sheared:
And that isn’t some “best case” scenario, believe me, I live in a place that has more sheep than people, and all sheared sheep look like that. It does not hurt the animal at all, aside from perhaps the odd slip with the shears resulting in a minor graze. In fact, shearing sheep is necessary for their wellbeing, because domesticated sheep do not shed their wool like a non domesticated sheep would, which can to them looking like this:
This is Shrek, yes, that is actually his name, notice how you can’t see his legs or face? That’s not good. He is a sheep who escaped his field and went wandering for six years, resulting in a sixty pound fleece. This is actually dangerous because it can cause overheating and if they get on their back the weight stops them from getting up again, they can die from this. PETA really cares about money and attention more than animals.
So yeah, fuck PETA, buy wool…and while you’re at it buy some goddamn honey because the bees need the help.
After Shrek was sheared:
HES SMILING
PETA kills more animals annually than any other fucking organization. Fuck PETA.
How the Internet Helps Me Be Genderfluid
My good friend’s instagram bio reads, “they/he/she…don’t give a fuck, take your pick!” (draikeeela) . Several months ago, I read this and realized how much I hated being locked into one set of pronouns– she/her/hers. Meekly placing a toe out of the cisgender realm, I requested that I also be referred to with “whatever pronouns first come to mind!”, which raised eyebrows but didn’t change habits. People continued to refer to me with female pronouns– to be fair, my default for over two decades – and it was then that I realized how I actually felt about it.
I was upset people weren’t using male pronouns to refer to me. Were they uncomfortable doing so? Was I not masculine enough to earn such an identifier? While I’ve been a mediocre femme all my life– subpar makeup skills, just bought my first curling iron and pair of heels – it wasn’t something I was ready to “give up” in order to appear more masculine and incite male pronouns. While they/them was also a set of pronouns I was happy to respond to, for some reason they didn’t give me the same kick that he/him/his did. Appearing femme and using male pronouns let people know they couldn’t make assumptions about me based on how I look; something that has happened regularly, and with negative implications, throughout my existence. The dissonance people felt looking at me as I explained my male pronouns mirrored the discomfort I felt as people relentlessly and aggressively gendered me as female, creating a curious parallel that I felt wholly appropriate, and that fairly cemented my decision to come out as genderfluid and insist on male pronouns in addition to female.
There was one other factor that helped me feel secure in my decision. Back to instagram we go: I was introduced to someone on the app who appears and identifies as femme, but uses male pronouns. As soon as I saw his profile, I exclaimed, “wait, you can DO THAT?!”. I had already bought boxers and baggy t-shirts, and was even considering cutting off my hair, in an effort to justify my male pronouns. “Completely unnecessary”, our mutual friends laughed, “gender doesn’t have rules!”.
Embracing genderfluidity in real life is a hassle and a half. People still often default to “she”, and if that’s incorrect that day, I have to quietly let them know, which is usually followed by, “ohmygosh I’m sorry!”, when they couldn’t have known anyway. I try to bring it up with the people I’m hanging out with right at the get-go, which is also kind of awkward– “nice to see you and BY THE WAY–”. Meanwhile, people halfway across the room at a party may still be misgendering me. “How do we know if you’re male or female today since you usually appear femme? Do you have a schedule?” . Fair, I get it, it’s confusing. It’s confusing for me too.
I love the internet. Facebook has been a godsend through all of this. I changed my pronoun to “they” so every damn time I post something people are reminded to not make assumptions about my gender. They can look up the fact that I’m genderfluid in my profile any time they want. I can re-post my “coming out” announcement with a single click, so no one misses the memo. Most importantly, every time I post a photo or status, I can end my upload with “[he/him/his]” or “[she/her/hers]” so people know how to respond appropriately. It’s helped monumentally. Of course, nothing is perfect– luckily I didn’t have to change my already gender-neutral name like many of my trans friends have had to do, consequently facing Facebook’s wrath. To make everyone’s lives easier I still go by “whichever pronouns first come to mind!” unless I otherwise specify. But I’ve come a long way since I first made that statement.
xo doomcookie
You’re an awesome human and I’m honoured to know you! You’ve been inspired by people to think about gender and how you relate to it, and you’re already getting other people to think about it too. Assumptions are the pits and language is awkward, but it’s worth challenging both. Your identity trumps my laziness, both in word and thought. I honestly never considered being femme presenting non-binary because androgyny is coded male which does seem weird. I’m gonna try to stop gushing now, because if I don’t I’ll never stop.
I had a long response to this typed out, but the Tumblr app ate it. 😞
Instead I'll just state that gender is so complicated and fascinating, and we could (and maybe should) talk productively about it for hours on end. Much love, Doomcookie. ❤️
LOSING MY SHIT
im gunNA VOMIT
aha i just watched over a minute with the sound off on auto play and i was like “yeah wow what a great and useful product.” i just turned the sound on… OH
there are TEARS